Advocating for Reactive and Bully Breed Dogs: Changing the Narrative Together

Being judged hurts—but nothing stings quite like hearing rude, thoughtless comments directed at your dog. If you’re part of the bully breed or reactive dog community (bonus points if you’ve got both), you know this feeling all too well.

You’re out there putting in the work—training, managing triggers, trying to create positive experiences—and someone decides to throw in a negative comment right in the middle of it. It’s the ultimate gut punch, especially when you’re already anxious about your dog’s progress.

The hardest part? Most of us know our dogs are trying. Maybe they’re having an off day, maybe they were startled, or maybe they just had a reactive moment—something many dogs experience, whether people admit it or not. But when someone judges your dog (or you) without understanding the context, it’s not just frustrating—it’s deeply hurtful. It can derail an otherwise productive session or turn a good outing into a disheartening one.

Here’s the truth: people who make those comments are either uninformed, lucky enough to have a non-reactive dog, or—ironically—the owner of a reactive dog themselves who happens to be smaller or less stigmatized, and thinks that makes them superior. Annoying, right?

At the end of the day, their opinions don’t matter. You know your dog. You know the progress being made, the challenges you’re overcoming together, and the strength it takes to keep showing up. That’s what counts. Keep going—you’re doing great, even if they don’t get it.

If I could write a blog post on how to not let rude comments affect you, I absolutely would—but the truth is, I’m not there yet. I’ve had hurtful things said to me during training sessions, and honestly? It’s never gotten easier. More often than not, those moments leave me feeling defeated, frustrated, and sometimes even in tears.

But here’s what I do know: the best thing we can do for our dogs in those moments is to advocate for them. To stand in their corner when others don’t understand. To protect their space, their progress, and their dignity—even when our hearts are hurting.

So whether you’re navigating a public training session, a neighborhood walk, or just reflecting at home, here are 7 ways you can actively advocate for your dog—because they deserve to be seen for more than a single reaction or a misunderstood breed.

1. Be strategic with attire

   
   

   

   
   

Marlee wears a leash wrap that reads, “Reactive: Dog in Training.” It’s a simple but powerful tool that helps communicate her needs before anyone even gets close. These kinds of visual cues give people a heads-up and can prevent uncomfortable or unsafe interactions.

There are so many options out there—leash wraps, dog vests, even T-shirts for handlers—with messages like:

“Needs Space”

“Do Not Pet”

“In Training”

“Pet Me”

“I’m Friendly”

“Do Not Approach”

These cues are incredibly helpful for advocating for your dog, especially in public spaces. They allow you to clearly express what your dog needs or how they should be approached—without having to constantly explain it out loud. Think of it as setting boundaries before a situation even arises. 

2. Speak Up 

   
   

If someone approaches you and your dog, don’t be afraid to be vocal and firm. Clear, confident statements like “He’s not friendly,” or “He needs space” can set immediate boundaries and prevent unwanted interactions.

And if someone takes it a step further by making a rude or ignorant comment about your reactive dog—or because you have a bully breed—it’s ok to speak your mind in a respectful but assertive way such as: 

“You know, rude comments don’t help anyone. Have a good day.”

“That comment isn’t helpful. Please keep your distance—we’re training right now.”

“He’s not aggressive—he’s just nervous. Thanks for giving us space.”

“It’s not about the breed—she’s actually very friendly. I’d encourage you to learn more.”

Or simply smile, walk away, and say nothing at all. Silence can speak volumes. Sometimes people are just looking for a reaction. Don’t give it to them.

The most important thing in these moments is to stay calm and grounded—not just for yourself, but for your dog. Your energy directly impacts how safe and supported they feel. By responding with composure, you’re not only protecting your dog—you’re modeling exactly the kind of responsible, compassionate ownership that reactive and bully breed dogs need more of in this world.

3. Share your story

   
   

Facebook groups, online forums, or start your own blog or social media account dedicated to your journey. Sharing your dog’s story—especially if they’re a bully breed or reactive—can help shift the narrative and educate others on what reactivity really is (and isn’t).

Use your platform to highlight the full picture: not just the tough training moments, but the joyful, silly, loving sides of your dog that often go unseen. Show them in their element—cuddling, playing, learning, being the amazing companion they are outside of stressful situations.

The more we normalize and humanize these dogs, the more we help others understand them—and maybe even become advocates themselves when they see similar dogs in public.

These online spaces are also powerful sources of encouragement. They remind us that progress is possible, and that we’re not alone in this journey. Whether you’re educating the public or just looking for support, connection matters—and your voice could be the one that changes someone’s perspective.

4. Volunteer

   
   

Unfortunately, many bully breeds face an uphill battle in shelters due to the persistent negative stereotypes surrounding them. These misconceptions often make it harder for them to get adopted, despite being loving, loyal, and eager to please.

One of the most powerful ways to make a difference is by volunteering at your local shelter. By spending time with these dogs, helping them socialize, and showcasing their true personalities, you can help shift public perception and give them a better shot at finding a forever home.

If you're able, consider fostering. Even short-term fostering can do wonders by providing a more stable environment where a dog’s best traits can shine. Fosters can create positive profiles, share their experiences, and help prove that these dogs are far more than their breed label.

As a volunteer or foster, it’s also crucial to educate potential adopters. Encourage them to do their research and choose a dog that truly fits their lifestyle, energy level, and experience. Adopting a bully breed—or any strong, reactive dog—comes with responsibility, and we want every match to be successful for both the dog and the adopter. 

5. Changing the narrative

   
   

   

   
   

Be mindful not to play into the harmful stereotypes that already exist around bully breeds. That means avoiding things like spiked collars or language that emphasizes “toughness” or aggression. While these dogs are strong, that’s not what defines them—and it’s certainly not the side we want the world to focus on.

Instead, showcase their true personalities: their loyalty, gentleness, and goofy charm. Post the cute moments—snuggles on the couch, playtime with other dogs, tail wags around kids, and the clever tricks they’ve learned. These everyday snapshots help people see what we already know: these dogs are so much more than their label.

This goes for reactive dogs too. Just because they struggle in certain situations doesn’t mean they don’t have a loving, fun, and deeply connected side. Highlighting those moments helps shift the narrative and shows that reactivity is just one part of who they are—not the whole story.

Thankfully, there are amazing brands out there working to change the narrative too. For example, Pittie Clothing creates adorable apparel that not only makes your bully breed look sweet and stylish but also supports rescue efforts and education. Companies like this are helping reshape how the world sees these incredible dogs—and you can be part of that movement just by sharing your dog’s joy.

6. Fight breed specific legislation

   
   

Breed-specific legislation (BSL) is deeply harmful and only reinforces the damaging stereotypes that so many of us are fighting to dismantle. These laws don’t make communities safer—they simply target certain breeds based on appearance, not behavior.

The effects are far-reaching: BSL not only fuels public fear and misunderstanding, but it also prevents loving, responsible people from adopting these dogs. Many housing options restrict bully breeds, making it incredibly difficult for adopters—even those with the best intentions—to provide safe, stable homes.

If you want to help change this, there are powerful ways to get involved:

• Sign and share local petitions to repeal breed-specific laws.

• Write to your local officials and urge them to support fair, breed-neutral legislation.

• Attend peaceful protests or rallies that raise awareness and push for change.

• Support organizations that are actively working to fight BSL and advocate for affected breeds.

7. Focus on your dog

   
   

   

   
   

At the end of the day, what truly matters is the bond between you and your dog. Be patient with their training, stay consistent, and prioritize their happiness and well-being above all else.

The most powerful way to change public perception isn’t through arguments or debates—it’s by showing real, positive progress. When people see these dogs thriving, growing, and loved for who they are, it breaks down misconceptions. Remember, these dogs are not defined by their challenges—they’re simply misunderstood. And with your dedication, love, and patience, you’re helping rewrite their story, one step at a time.

In conclusion, no one knows your dog better than you do. You see their true heart—the loving, loyal, and unique spirit beneath any setbacks or challenges. These moments don’t define who they are.

As a reactive or bully breed dog owner, it’s our responsibility to advocate fiercely for them in every way we can. Stand up for your dog—and stand up for yourself. Remember, you are doing the very best you can, and you’ve absolutely got this.

Finding a supportive community can make all the difference on this journey. So please, leave a comment or send me a message—I’m here, and I’m all ears.

Change doesn’t happen by waiting; it starts with action. Together, we can reshape perceptions and create a better world for our dogs.

Disclaimer:

This post is based on personal experience and opinion and is intended for general informational and supportive purposes only. Every dog is unique, and training or behavior challenges should be addressed with the guidance of a qualified professional, such as a certified dog trainer or veterinary behaviorist. Always prioritize the safety and well-being of you, your dog, and those around you. This content does not replace professional advice or legal guidance related to breed-specific legislation or animal care.